John M. Gottman

John M. Gottman

John M. Gottman was born on April 26th, 1942 and is currently 83 years old. John M. Gottman was born in Dominican Republic. Gottman attended Fairleigh Dickinson University where they received a BS, Massachusetts Institute of Technology where they received an MS and University of Wisconsin where they received a MA, PhD.

John M. Gottman is a professor better known as an expert on divorce prediction and marital stability. Over the years, he has conducted extensive new research with couples, trying to understand what makes good marriages and bad ones.

Gottman has authored and co-authored more than 250 scholarly articles and more than 50 books, many of which have become bestsellers. He has also made media appearances on mainstream news outlets and in publications such as Vanity Fair, Reader's Digest, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning News.

John M. Gottman cofounded Affective Software and The Gottman Institute alongside his wife, Dr. Julie Gottman. He is also the director of the Seattle-based Relationship Research Institute, where he guides research on conflict in families transitioning to parenthood and young families.

Gottman and Julie have run marathon sessions for couples, in addition to providing individual consultations.

Outside of his private work with couples, John M. Gottman worked at the University of Washington as Professor of Psychology. While he was there, he became the founder of “The Love Lab”, which is where he started conducting what would become the foundations of his theories on families and couples.

For his work, John M. Gottman has won numerous awards and was named to the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists list by Psychotherapy Networker.

In 1994, John M. Gottman published the work Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, in which he guides his readers through a series of tests to help them decide on the type of marriage they have.

He discusses their strengths and weaknesses, and the actions to take to improve their relationship. John asserts that sex does not necessarily make a marriage better and that frequent arguing will not always result in divorce.

John Gottman goes against convention, arguing that financial problems will not always destroy a marriage. He teaches about attitudes that destroy marriages, such as stonewalling, contempt, defensiveness, and criticism.

Lastly, he provides readers with techniques, exercises, tips, and quizzes to help his readers get the most out of their relationships.

In 1997, John M. Gottman teamed up with Joan DeClaire to publish Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child as an exploration of the emotional relationship between children and parents.

The authors believe parents need to be more concerned with the quality of emotional interactions with their children rather than simply rejecting the authoritarian model of parenting.

They assert that parents should focus on knowing themselves through a series of exercises to assess their emotional self-awareness. They also develop a five-step process to help children recognize and manage their emotions.

The following year, John M. Gottman published The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, which revolutionized modern understanding of how to repair and strengthen marriages.

Working with couples over the years, he observed the habits that break or make a good marriage. He teaches partners novel ways to achieve greater intimacy, create new common ground, and resolve conflicts.

John also offers resources and strategies to help couples work together more effectively to address the many challenges of modern relationships across family, sex, work, money, and religion, among other areas.

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